How To Manage Stress By Dealing With Your Past And Relationships

When you are young you do not have inhibitions, but as you grow older and you are very likely continuously told what not to do, you start to question yourself and often become insecure.

In my coaching practice I have found that very few people are able to look in the mirror and say "I love you". How can you truly love someone else if you can't love yourself?

When bringing up your own children or assisting with your grand children please do remember that you should always tell children what to do as, if you use a negative statement, that is exactly what they will do.

Past-Don't hold onto it!

What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new. Right now. ~Author Unknown

Hanging onto your past mistakes, feeling guilty, and wanting to wreak revenge on others is very damaging to your health. Every body makes mistakes and causes hurt during their life, but it is important to leave the past behind and keep moving forward to manage stress. This doesn’t mean that you will never make a mistake again, but just make sure that it is a new mistake every time, so that you can learn and grow.

Questions that you ask yourself

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will find them gradually, without noticing it, and live along some distant day into the answer. ~Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

We ask ourselves so many questions. Why am I here? What is my purpose in life? Really these are things that you are not going to know until the time is right and you have done all the learning and growing that you need to do. So sit back and relax,manage stress, and enjoy the ride!

Relationships

Now “relationship” is defined in the dictionary as “what one person or thing has to do with another, way in which one stands or is related to another, kind of connection or correspondence or contrast or feelings that prevail between persons or things”.

So this is saying that both people are responsible for the relationship and that people will only treat us in a manner that we allow them to. If you are unhappy with the way that you are being treated there are two things that you can do;

•You need to figure out what you are doing that allows the person to treat you in an unacceptable manner.

•Then you need to change what you are doing and let the person know that the relationship needs to be renegotiated.

If you handle the situation correctly the person will either change the way that they treat you, or they will leave allowing you to manage stress in peace.



I have found this site with great relationship advice and ideas on how to use different meditation techniques to develop your mindfulness muscle. This site will open in a new window behind this page, so do return to me once you are done.

You can also click on this site that has some great relationship advice for women. This site will open in a new window behind this page, so do return to me once you are done.